My Dearest Daughter,
Self-Doubt is that person in your life who you think is kind of a nuisance but rather harmless, so you don't really take any action towards that relationship. However, you'll eventually realize if you haven't already, doubt can be the #1 killer of dreams and the main barrier between you and your ability to live out your wildest dreams. It can be quite the soul-crusher.
So I tell you now, protect your mind from doubt from even entering. Keep doubt at arms length by proactively and consistently taking good care of your mental and physical health. Practice inner self-care, even on the good days!
Doubt can be a elusive little trickster, and it can creep into your mind, no matter what you do or don't do. Just know you're not any lesser than b/c you have self-doubts! It happens to everyyyyyyone. So when, not if, b/c it will happen...so when it happens, here is what I do to work through it.
First, I don't deny the doubt. Ignoring it will only make it fester and grow and show up in ways that are fugly. I instead acknowledge it right away. And as silly as it sounds, I actually acknowledge it as though it's a thought that came from outside of myself. As in, really believing that the self-doubt didn't originate within me. Sometimes, I even think of it as a whole separate person. Like, "yo, SD, I see you creeping." Creating distance between me and the doubt allows me to see things with more objectivity, clarity and a lot less judgement.
From there, I approach with curiosity. That quickly switches my brain to be more open-minded and go into a growth-oriented mode, instead of being stuck and feeling helpless. I ask the thought, "Why are you here?" "Where do you come from?" and "How can I help you go away?" These questions get my mind to start problem-solving, and that fills me with feelings optimism and empowerment, knowing I have full-control and am doing something about it.
Try it next time SD the creeper comes by. You got this!
Love Always,
Your Mama
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